Today, it was brought to my attention by RawBeautyKristi (love this woman, OMG) about a video called "Dear Fat People" - no I have not watched the video. I don't think the woman behind the video needs to have more attention than she already has for what she considers 'humor'. Basically, from all the video responses (I've been watching the response since 2 this afternoon, it is now 4:53PM EST) and what I'm understanding is that she probably hate her own life and wishes people would love her more than she thinks they do.
I won't mention her name. Just type in Dear Fat People into any search engine and it will come up.
I can admit, I am not overweight. I've never had a problem with my weight. This shouldn't effect as much as it is, but since I have friends, actually friends, who had dealt with being overweight and feeling comfortable in their own skins now, that I can say that I know what they feel like.
I have been shamed for being skinny. I've been asked if I had/have an eating disorder - never did, never fucking will. I've had my friend comment on about how they can see my bones through my skin (I have very skinny and long finger, you can physically see bones move when I do things). I've been told that I need to eat more, I've been told I need to eat less. I've been told that I was underweight. I've been told I look like a model. I've been told that I must be in pant size zero because of my figure.
I will say this: weight shaming is one of the things that I wish people would stop talking about.
One: It's not funny. Someone could be dealing with something so horrible that the weight is just a terrible bonus. It could be do to drugs they are on. It be due to the own gene pool, asshole. You can tell people "healthy eating, healthy lifestyle, healthy this, healthy that" but you don't know if the person you are telling that to IS ALREADY HEALTHY!
You can be overweight and be healthy. It is a damn possibility that apparently you didn't get through that blonde skull of yours. I had a friend who was on the heavy side, but she was healthy. She did cheerleading for fuck's sake. She had the strength to hold people up. But was she happy with her body, no. Is she happy with her body now, HELL YEAH!
Two: You don't know what you have just caused! Besides the negative attention that apparently you thrive on. But also, you don't know that someone 'joked' about in the video could have just successfully stopped harming themselves. You don't know that you probably just caused more damage than you thought about - not just for overweight people, but to the underweight people.
Teenagers (even younger) are very emotional and aren't comfortable in their skin. You just started a ripple reaction, chaos is about to ensure - a negative reaction. Chaos is not something you want - no one wants chaos - people want order and you just messed with the balance so hard, you could ruin people. I know it's targeted for overweight or fat people but you do realize that many kids are very influenced by what they watch?
Saying 'stop eating' - that's a DIRECT quote - can cause SO MUCH MORE than a fucking joke.
Three: You don't know what's going in their lives to make them overweight. Like I mentioned medications, disorders, life-threatening problems, genes - YOU DON'T FUCKING KNOW THERE PROBLEMS! It's not your role to say, 'you need help' when they've already heard it, many times before.
It's not your place to say, "You need help" because you don't have the fucking right to say that to someone you don't know. It's less effective to anyone - either they already are getting the damn help or they've tried and it doesn't work. Not your place to say a damn fucking word.
I know that YouTube has deleted the video and your account - but for someone calling it 'trolling' you disabled the comments and the ratings system. Hmm... that's not suspicious at all. So, wanna try and make a different excuse?
~Molly
I won't mention her name. Just type in Dear Fat People into any search engine and it will come up.
I can admit, I am not overweight. I've never had a problem with my weight. This shouldn't effect as much as it is, but since I have friends, actually friends, who had dealt with being overweight and feeling comfortable in their own skins now, that I can say that I know what they feel like.
I have been shamed for being skinny. I've been asked if I had/have an eating disorder - never did, never fucking will. I've had my friend comment on about how they can see my bones through my skin (I have very skinny and long finger, you can physically see bones move when I do things). I've been told that I need to eat more, I've been told I need to eat less. I've been told that I was underweight. I've been told I look like a model. I've been told that I must be in pant size zero because of my figure.
I will say this: weight shaming is one of the things that I wish people would stop talking about.
One: It's not funny. Someone could be dealing with something so horrible that the weight is just a terrible bonus. It could be do to drugs they are on. It be due to the own gene pool, asshole. You can tell people "healthy eating, healthy lifestyle, healthy this, healthy that" but you don't know if the person you are telling that to IS ALREADY HEALTHY!
You can be overweight and be healthy. It is a damn possibility that apparently you didn't get through that blonde skull of yours. I had a friend who was on the heavy side, but she was healthy. She did cheerleading for fuck's sake. She had the strength to hold people up. But was she happy with her body, no. Is she happy with her body now, HELL YEAH!
Two: You don't know what you have just caused! Besides the negative attention that apparently you thrive on. But also, you don't know that someone 'joked' about in the video could have just successfully stopped harming themselves. You don't know that you probably just caused more damage than you thought about - not just for overweight people, but to the underweight people.
Teenagers (even younger) are very emotional and aren't comfortable in their skin. You just started a ripple reaction, chaos is about to ensure - a negative reaction. Chaos is not something you want - no one wants chaos - people want order and you just messed with the balance so hard, you could ruin people. I know it's targeted for overweight or fat people but you do realize that many kids are very influenced by what they watch?
Saying 'stop eating' - that's a DIRECT quote - can cause SO MUCH MORE than a fucking joke.
Three: You don't know what's going in their lives to make them overweight. Like I mentioned medications, disorders, life-threatening problems, genes - YOU DON'T FUCKING KNOW THERE PROBLEMS! It's not your role to say, 'you need help' when they've already heard it, many times before.
It's not your place to say, "You need help" because you don't have the fucking right to say that to someone you don't know. It's less effective to anyone - either they already are getting the damn help or they've tried and it doesn't work. Not your place to say a damn fucking word.
I know that YouTube has deleted the video and your account - but for someone calling it 'trolling' you disabled the comments and the ratings system. Hmm... that's not suspicious at all. So, wanna try and make a different excuse?
~Molly
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